Some women opt to have a cesarean weeks in advance, and some have a surprise one at the last minute. There are many different reasons to have a c-section, including: convenience; wedged in baby; backwards baby; upside down baby; previous c-section; and baby in distress. Many women get a complex about having a c-section; like their baby’s birth doesn’t count as much as another woman’s, or that other people tell her how “lucky” she is to have had her baby that way. But the truth is that c-sections aren’t cheating, and there’s nothing “lucky” about them.
My optometrist planned her daughter’s birth. Tanya works hard at her job, and she doesn’t have the time to wait around on maternity leave for a possibly late delivery. She scheduled a c-section to happen right around Evelyn’s due date. She worked until Friday, took the weekend off to finalize the nursery and get her bills paid, etc., and went in at 9am Monday to have Evelyn. Some women opt to have c-sections for medical reasons. Sometimes the baby is exceptionally big, and the doctor will tell the mother she should schedule a c-section before the baby gets too big to squeeze out. Occasionally, a woman has physical problems, like scoliosis, that may cause a doctor to encourage a non-vaginal birth as well. The rest of the c-sections, for the most part, happen on the fly.
No matter why you have a c-section, it doesn’t change the fact that you’re a real mother, who had a real birth of a real baby. And as for you “cheating”? The recovery for the mother is usually more difficult for a c-section than a vaginal delivery. You’ve had major surgery – you’re gonna be a slow walker for a while.
Here’s how a c-section might go for you:
As for the complex some women get about not having a vaginal delivery – you and your baby are healthy… that’s all that matters.
Plus, your baby doesn’t come out looking all squished and wrinkly.
One of the mommies featured in our Pea in the Podcast on VBACs is pregnant again! Yay! Kim’s story of her succesful vaginal birth after a c section is inspiring, and here’s hoping she has another successful VBAC.
If you’re interested in trying for a VBAC, the International Cesarean Awareness Network website is loaded with information for you, including a checklist that will get you started.
To be clear, if Kim has another c-section, that would not be the end of the world. I will be just as proud of her. Having a healthy baby is the most important thing, no matter how they’re delivered! Sometimes a c-section is necessary. That’s how my girl got here!
If you’re pregnant for the first time, VBAC is not one of the millions of things you will have to consider before your baby’s birthday. However, you may want to prepare yourself for the possibility that you might have a c-section, no matter what you’ve planned (I planned a peaceful natural childbirth, in dim room with soft music and liberal use of the birthing suite’s jacuzzi tub). To familiarize yourself with what would happen should you end up giving birth to your baby with the help of a surgeon, please check out our Pea in the Podcast on cesarean sections.